Thursday, July 06, 2006

What to do......


hey guys...it has been quite some time since i've written a post. anyway, i'm quite glad that my -shy.little.big.gal- has finally updated us about her "someone". I'm not going to reveal any names here but i'm sure you all know WHO i'm talking about.

To my shy-little-big-gal:

I think you should not let all these relationship issues come to your head. I understand that there are factors you need to consider before you can get into a relationship but i'm sure there bound to be a way to work things out. One thing for sure, your faith in god will never waver. So, the only way you can accept him is for him to accept god before things between both of you can fall into place. i can only say that time is the solution then. When it comes to religious issues, things can get complicated and sensitive. Don't rush into things and in any case i feel that you should not keep stressing that he must turn to god in order for you to accept him. Cz this might turn out to become a pressure for him to accept god quickly. Since you already mention your concerns to him, its up to him now to open up to a whole new world of faith. Give him time to learn, to discover and to accept by himself.

Meanwhile, i don't think that you should let things change between both of you just because of this. Isn't friendship more than this? The most important thing is to ask youself: do you enjoy his company? since you r willing to let him get close to you, i presume he is a nice guy la...(cz you so "niao", guys you like should be of certain standard ritez? betta dun disappoint me!) So....whats wrong with spending a little more time together when both of you obviously enjoy each other's company. Isn't that how friendship develops into something more? In a way, they are also chances for you to know him better ritez? Just get your stand right n draw a clear line between both of you, don't let things progress more than how close frens shld behave. Feelings can be there but things should just stop there if you still can't see yourself in a relationship with him in the near future. In other words, don't lead him on with your gestures n stuff, you know what i mean? To put things simply: don't COMPLICATE things cause sometimes one wrong move can spoil everything.

Of course, this DOES NOT mean that you should stop being nice to him. I don't see why you should not reciprocate his kindness towards you. Go ahead n be nice to him la if your heart tells you to. I don't see anything wrong with that. Care for him the way you care for us. It will be unfair to him if you remain nonchalent for what he had done for you. Doesn't your god tells you to show appreciation to others when due? It goes the same for him. Don't punish him for liking you. Just draw the limits of being nice n over-nice can le... So, you r very wrong when you say you can't do anything for him. Why not?

lastly, why should you care whether your frens spotted you with him a not? what era le gal? what is wrong with hanging out with a guy? somemore you r almost 20 leh!! not as if you r some juvenile kid la... people will be more surprise if they never spotted you with a guy be4 la.. haha! i know you don't like gossips la..but gossips r unavoidable..you can't ctrl what people say, so y let it bothers you. esp these kind of gossips no big deal wad.

ok...thats all for now... trying to give my dear fren some advice la..not sure if it'll help. dun b too troubled kaez... a guy onli wad..no kick! haha

ok..now back to my stuff. i finally have time to update la. 18th to 22nd june was my engin camp. It was so tiring..can't imagine how little time n how many meals i skipped for the past week. think i slim down a bit..haha my frens commented on that, not me. The camp was alright la. i think last yr one was better, i had more fun. This yr mayb because i'm in the organising com. the feeling is totally different. there are so many things to do n i hardly get to interact with the freshies in the grp i'm attached to. The " yi yi bu she" feeling is missing when i break camp. n thru this camp, i've learn more, know more, discover more about people n myself. lazy to elaborate, think you all wun want to hear my stories too...haha

here r some pics:

*doing some stupid cheers*

* fellow councillors, the same grp i went taiwan with, my gd frens in uni*

* my very good fren i known from camp*

shall post more pics next time=)

30th Jun to 2nd July: had dry run for engin Oweek in aug. shagged man.. late nite soccer matches in sch plus games, games n more games... n... BRAZIL lost to france. was super sad. i was totally stunned...can't believe they were out in the quarter finals. but have to admit that they din play well but still can help feeling disappointed.

i had overnite ktv with my sec frens on tues, after that we went my fren's house watch soccer. Germany is out =( so ke xi... wanna watch them play in the finals but too bad... the next morning i went to meet someone for breakfast. erm, a guy. Shh.. i never tell siang yuan about it. haah but he's juz my gd fren in uni la. the thing is we never ask anyone along cz we happen to be in the same place at the same time but i still feel a bit bad. like sneaking behind people's back. the thing is we r really quite close frens n there is so much for us to talk abt. dun question my feelings for him cz as long as i'm still attached nth is possible. but i have to admit that if one day he gets attached i'll be affected somehow. DOes this seeems wrong to you guys?

today i had my OG outing..KTV again. dunno y the whole world wanna go KTV recently. the outing i feel was not very fun. everyone snatching the mike la..there were 4 mikes still not enough to go around cz its one HUGE grp. anyway i was feeling quite sian throughout, dunno y n i din realli sing much. very unlike me hor? n i keep thinking abt relationships stuff... sometimes songs realli make ppl think..esp when guys sing, its juz different. n i was a bit sian cz the guy good fren was sitting so far away from me, i din realli get to talk to him at all. The thing is we r actually closer than ppl thought, yet in one big grp we behave normally. weird feeling rite? dunno how to descibe too..u guys muz b confused. but dun worry nothing's gg on between us. juz a bit sad when he sings love songs. hahaaha feels as if he's talking to me from across the room. hahaha...opps.

anyway i was talking to my gd fren on the phone juz now. she having some probs with her bf now cz her bf is a control freak. he doesn't let her do what she wants n she's a freedom lover like me. Her's is a worse case than siangyuan. n he doesn't allow her to go my sch bash!! wad the hell.. no fun man. anyway she is very much like my "pattern". u know some couples can get really lovey dovey. they r the kinds that want to see each other as much as possible n do many many things together. cook, suntan, go overseas, study, stayover, do realli sweet sweet n silly stuff. but then we r juz the opposite. I dun like to stick to my bf 24/7 and sometimes i realli rather go out with my frens than him n one thing for sure, i'm never reliant on him in this relationship. so never ever accuse me of being zhong se qing you ok, cz i'll never be! but then again.... is there something wrong in my relationship then? erm..right now i have to say that i still can't see far in this relationship. there is just sth missing... the chemistry perhaps? i juz have to find it back.. or is it sth i can't find back? my fren told me that from wad she observed, she can onli see 40% of love from me. gals..wad do you all think? is it really that bad? anyway, jia i was quite surprised when u ask me who i like not long ago. i mean who will ask a attached gal such qn? cz the ans will be obvious unless.....do i realli seems that i dun like sy anymore?

anyway, 'someone' .. being single not that bad after all. at least u dun have to worry abt such stuff.. opps, hope i dun sway u away from relationship. ltr you remain single all yr life dun blame me..! haha...at least no fat guy for you. realli happy for you la..hope things work out smoothly for you =)

anyway...this is a rather looong entry..i can type more but dun wanna bored u gals, in case you all r not interested in my life at all! hahaaa... i'm getting emotional when i sing ktv i think... haha!

-Lee ching aka lychee.........-

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